Walk With Me - An Audio Guide for Self-Improvement
Walk With Me - An Audio Guide for Self-Improvement
Understanding the Profound Impact of Relationships on Personal Growth and Harnessing the Power of Positivity
Do you understand the profound impact relationships have on your personal growth? As we navigate the labyrinth of familial bonds, friendships, and professional associations, we'll reveal how they color our worldview and shape our future actions. From birth to adulthood, our environment and the people we interact with play a pivotal role in defining who we are. Whether it's the influence of a negative household or an uplifting circle of friends, these relationships have the power to shape our life's trajectory. But, fear not! It's not all set in stone - we also wield the power to distance ourselves from toxicity and embrace the power of positivity.
Now, let's tap into the power of choice - a tool we often underestimate. Remember, we may not have control over the family that we are born into, but we certainly have the power to choose the family we build. The company we keep can either uplift us or pull us down, the choice is ours. So, how do we make sure we're surrounded by positive influences? It's about making conscious choices that drive us towards a fulfilling and contented life. Tune in as we unravel the secrets of harnessing the power of relationships and turning them into a positive force in our lives. We'll discuss how to feed the 'positive wolf' and how to radiate this positive energy into the world. So, are you ready to walk this path together? Your support fuels our journey, so let's embark on this adventure of personal growth and positive relationships.
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Passion, drive, persistence, resilience, love all qualities that shape and define us. Join the Cyber Warrior as he helps shape your path. This is Walk With Me. Welcome back to Walk With Me, a Cyber Warrior Studios production. As always, I'm your host on this journey, the Cyber Warrior.
Speaker 1:Now, today, I want to discuss something a little bit more in depth than I have in the past, and that's relationships, relationships of all types. You see this podcast being about self-improvement and how we can better ourselves. A lot of the way we turn out in life, a lot of who we are, stems from the relationships we developed from the time we were born until the time we get out on our own, and then, even henceforth, you're going to establish more relationships throughout your life. These can be the families you're born into, the families that you marry into, the families that you create within your community, your friendships, your careers, whatever the case may be. It could be your friends, it could be your spouse, it could be coworkers and managers and leaders and bosses and everything else. All these relationships truly influence who we are as people and they really influence how we turn out in life. Now, you've heard me say, hopefully on many of occasions, that you need to separate yourself from toxicity and from negativity and be able to deal with more positive influences in your life. Now, when you're born, that's very difficult because as children, we only know what we see. We don't have really this mind of our own yet we're not adults. We don't make our own decisions all of the time.
Speaker 1:Now sometimes, depending on what generation you grow up in, you will You'll have these occasions of the parents kind of let you get hurt so you learn, and I know that some people don't like that. They want to protect their kids from everything. So there will be other people in this world who grew up almost under a rock. They weren't exposed to swearing and pain and a lot of other things throughout their life because as children they weren't exposed to it. So then, when they finally are, it's a whole different experience and it's a whole different world. But regardless of how you were raised, these relationships, this way of being raised to influence us, because maybe you were taught manners. So you may have been grew up around people that drank and smoke and swore and everything else, but at the end of the day, they taught you manners, they taught you respect and they taught you that. Yes, these are adult words, or this is an adult drink, or these are things that adults do and it's not always good for you, but everybody has their own lives to live. Now, if these things aren't abused in such a way, then you're exposing your kids, and even you, as a child, were exposed to a way of life that you will see a lot in society. For those that weren't raised that way, they grew up not knowing really what swear words were. They grew up not really knowing anything about alcohol or the effects of people that are drunk, or even what smoking can do to you, other than the things they learn in school, where it sometimes takes years to learn because you don't get exposed to it until maybe middle school or high school or even college some of these things depending on the environment you're raised in and the schools you go to.
Speaker 1:So when you look at these relationships and how we're raised, I kind of look at it this way. So you have two ways you can look at life. You can either take all of the things that you were taught as a child and as you worked or lived your life into adulthood, looked at the good and the bad and chose to go to the route of whatever was bad in your life. So if you were raised by an alcoholic or by a drug addict or by somebody who was always making bad decisions, then you can turn out the exact same way, or you can take a look at it and make the choice actively, make the choice to be an adult and realize that's not somebody you want to be. So let's say you were raised by an alcoholic. You can either become an alcoholic yourself or you can choose never to drink or know your limits and drink on occasion, like there's ways to moderate it and make it to where it is not bad for you. Okay, you know there was someone that becomes an alcoholic and they're gonna use the excuse Well, this is all I know, this is what you know. So and so was, and my dad or stepdad or mom or stepmom or whomever. This is all I knew my entire life. So you know it's because of that. Well, you're not wrong, but you're not right either, because us, as humans, still have the Opportunity to make the choice in our life of how we want to live it. You can either go down the same route in the same path that you saw that was bad and didn't really go well for you and Put that on other people and live that same life, or you can realize that this is toxic. This is not good for me. I didn't like this way of living, so why would I do that to somebody else within my life?
Speaker 1:Again, choices, and you can even look at you know kids that grow up without a parent. You know they don't that it's a single parent household. Well, you can either make the choice to be the same way and you know, eventually, being a single parent household, or be a single parent yourself. Or Unless there is extenuating circumstances at which point you and your, your whoever had a child with you Don't get along. It's abusive, or whatever the case may be. As long as there's no real reason other than you know we just didn't get along, or so-and-so cheated on me, or whatever the case may be. If it's not abusive, if it's not, they walked out. If it's not, they want nothing to do with this kid, but they want something to do with it, then you can co-parent.
Speaker 1:Again, choices If you were raised in a single parent household and you know how hard that was, why would you bring that upon you and your children? Choices, and I'm not saying stay with abusive people. No, get out of there as soon as possible. Run further hills, do things legally, press charges, do whatever the case may be. Do not allow your kids to grow up in that atmosphere. And yet we make mistakes, sometimes we end up with the wrong people. But if there's no real bad blood or maybe somebody made a mistake, y'all decided not, it wasn't gonna work, okay, but at least of that, that both parents want to be involved in the child's life, put them in the child's life. That turns out better for both of you, because now you can both make decisions and work together for what is best for your children. And again, this helps us as we grow. This is why relationships are so important, because throughout our lives we're going to have so many. So let's get away from the topic of kids now, whether it's us or us as kids, or how we raise kids. Let's talk about the other relationships we have in our lives.
Speaker 1:You know, the saying goes that the blood of the coven is stronger than the water of the womb, ideally. And what that truly means is that the family you choose is stronger than the family you you're born into. The reason that that is stated is Is because a lot of times there are kids that are born into toxic families. You were raised in a toxic family, so instead of constantly surrounding yourself with negativity and alcoholism and drug addicts and you know these toxic traits and people that don't support you, you can choose your family still, because it is that, that family that you find that a lot of times can be stronger than the family you were born into. I Was lucky. I have the parents I have the siblings I have, and, and the nieces and nephews and in-laws that I have. I have gotten extremely lucky in my life, but it doesn't mean I haven't also adopted and and Kind of found another family outside of my family that when things get rough and and I need help or someone to lean on, I can lean on them as well, because it gives me an outlet and it gives me people that I can, I can talk to and I I know the Understand some of the things that I'm going through in my life Relationships, the families we choose and a lot of times those can be more important than the families were born into, because at the same time, those families we choose can be toxic if we do not catch it soon enough and we allow that negativity to get to us.
Speaker 1:Then there's friends. Then there's friends. Now friends are a little easier to break away from, but as you're growing up with these friends, sometimes they're with you for life and sometimes they're only with you for a short time. Other times you meet them as an adult. These friends can have positive and negative effects. So if you form a friendship with somebody, a bond that you think these people are gonna be there for you forever as they say, ride or die Well then now you have to look at a situation and when somebody is being negative all the time, maybe you met them and they're a very positive person, they're very upbeat, and then something goes wrong and you, instead of helping you, pull yourself away and you're like I don't want to surround myself with that.
Speaker 1:Maybe you need to figure out what's going on before you make that choice to pull away, because these friendships that we build, a lot of these people have supported us over the years. And so if you pull away because all of a sudden they're having something in their life that you are not aware of, because they haven't talked to you yet and you have not opened yourself up for that communication flow, now when you leave, they're going to see it as you turned your back on them. Invite versa If you're having something going on with you and your friends aren't reaching out to you, figure out hey, what's going on? Why are you? Why is your personality shifted? What are you upset about? Why is all this negativity all of a sudden there? Then maybe you need to separate yourself from them.
Speaker 1:Now, it's not always the case. We lose contact with people over the years and then we just reach out every so often. I've got a lot of brothers and sisters from the military that I only talk to occasionally online, or I'll call once every so often. It happens, but we pick up where we left off and we dump everything out there the good, the bad, the ugly because that's how we get along, that's how we communicate and we're able to work through these things. And a lot of times, when you make those phone calls to somebody after two, three, six months a year, it's because you have decided to check up on them. The one initiating the call usually is calling to check up because you missed that person or maybe you've relied on them in the past. You feel like you have no one now and now. You just need someone to talk to, and those friends that you can do that with are vital and very important, and they're also the ones that'll help push you along in your career, because they're the ones that are going to support you no matter what.
Speaker 1:Now let's talk about some of these professional relationships we have to deal with Our co-workers, our managers, our bosses, our leaders, everybody else. These relationships can be good and bad. You see, depending on where you work, depending on what you do. You can have really, really poor leadership and you can have a micromanager as a boss and you can you know all these other things where people aren't leading from the front and trying to help you along in your career Bad areas to be. And a lot of times, if you're in those situations with those type of managers and bosses, I'll tell you to find another job, because people don't leave companies, they leave bosses, they leave people, because maybe the people in that area, in that environment, are toxic and they're not good for them mentally. All of these relationships play on our mental health, the good and the bad, and they can help us or they can hurt us, just like your co-workers.
Speaker 1:If you are working with certain co-workers and they're always coming in saying I hate work, I hate what I do, I hate this place, I hate this job, da-da-da-da-da Then eventually that's going to wear on you. One of two things are going to happen. Even if you went to that job and you enjoyed it for a long time all that negativity eventually you're going to despise that place, but it's not necessarily because of the work, it's because of the negativity and that energy that is now coming off of somebody and making you negative, because some people don't want to come with solutions, they just want to complain. And if you're not going to come up with a solution to fix the problem and you're dealing with someone that's complaining all the time, that negativity is going to rub off on you. It's going to happen.
Speaker 1:Now you have other co-workers that are positive all the time. They may not always like what they're doing for work or particular clients or particular issues or situations, but they come to work upbeat and they're ready to go. And yeah, sure, they may on occasion say something like man, this client is horrible, or it's a bad day for me and this job sucks, or whatever, but it's a one-off and you know they're going to come back the next day, be upbeat, ready to go and fight through it, because they really want to be there and enjoy what they do. Those are the co-workers that a lot of times we enjoy working with. They may be quiet, they may be outgoing you never know but anytime you talk to them they give you that positive energy and that vibe that helps you continue on in your life and your career and everything else. And, at the same time, these are the relationships we build that as we go about our careers. These are the people that are going to help us If we end up getting laid off or getting fired or whatever the case may be. These are the contacts we keep that are going to have a job for you or help you find a job, either with their current employer or with someone else they know, because networking is key.
Speaker 1:All of these relationships in our lives have an effect on how we live and, again, you can either choose to go the negative route and everything bad that ever happens to you, all the negativity that surrounds you you choose to adopt that lifestyle, or you can go about it in such a way that all the negativity, all the bad decisions you see other people make instead of doing the exact same thing and ending up living the exact same life they live and being just as miserable as them. You can do the opposite. You can bring more positivity in your life. You can choose to have a better outlook. And I know it's hard. Sometimes I've been down and out. I've made little to no money to support my family. I've lived paycheck to paycheck. Get it Been there. Even now I'm there in half the time, living paycheck to paycheck. But at the end of the day, I have surrounded myself with positive people my family, my chosen family, my friends, my coworkers, people that will correct me when I'm wrong but are still there for me and drive me to be a better person every day.
Speaker 1:So what decisions are you making in your life? Because if you were choosing to stay within these relationships that are negative, if you were choosing to take all of this negativity that comes at you and adopt it as your own and be that person, then you were going to be a negative person on the world. And I know misery loves company. Some of us, well, we isolate ourselves when we're miserable. That's how you'll know when we're in a bad mood or when something's wrong. But look, ideally, you take the positives from everything. You take the bad decisions, the bad outlook, the negativity that you see from everybody else, and you realize you don't want to be that way, because in our lives we have the choices of how we're going to live them. We have the choice of what we're going to do, what jobs we're gonna have. Do we or don't we go to school? Do we or don't we work a second job or a third job or do we? Do we do something else? Do we change careers? Do we do something to make a difference in our lives, to make our lives better?
Speaker 1:Instead of constantly blaming everything else, utilize these relationships that you have cultivated over the years family, friends, co-workers, managers, leaders, bosses, whatever the case may be. Utilize that to your benefit to look at how you want to live your life. You want to live like them and Be negative or be positive, depending, or do you want to be the opposite? There's no story. Inside of everybody is two wolves. One is good, one is bad. The one that grows in, the one that takes control, is the one that you feed the most. So which wolf are you feeding? The positive, the good, or the negative, the bad? The choice is yours. Personally, I have my bad days, but I do my very best to stay energetic, motivated and positive, because I feel that's the type of energy I want to give out in the world. That's the type of influence I want to have on all of my warriors, on everybody who supports me, on everybody who follows me and Everybody who I surround myself with. There's too much negativity in the world, and I choose not to be that way. So utilize these relationships you have and make the right choice. Now look otherwise.
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