Walk With Me - An Audio Guide for Self-Improvement
Walk With Me - An Audio Guide for Self-Improvement
Decoding Goodness: Keys to Being a Better Man
Every man out there is trying to be a good man, but what does that really mean? What are the characteristics that define a good man? Drawing from a wellspring of personal experiences, I will take you through my journey on how I strive to embody the qualities that I believe signify a good man. We'll talk about good mental health, career success, and providing support to others. Inviting vulnerability into our lives, an aspect often shrouded in misconceptions, particularly around men's mental health, is a topic I feel deeply about. So, let's unravel the layers of what being a good man means and how vulnerability plays a pivotal role in it.
Continuing our discussion, we will explore how the inability to express vulnerability can lead to severe mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. It's not just about being strong, it's about the strength in expressing your emotions and standing firm in your beliefs. When we talk about providing and protecting for our family and community, it's important to understand that your ability to do so can be seriously affected if you're mentally drained. So, let's take a step back from the futile online debates and focus on what truly matters - being the best version of ourselves. Whether you're a man looking for advice, or someone trying to understand the men in your life better, I hope you'll find value in our conversation. Join us, as we journey together towards understanding what it means to be a good man in today's world.
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Speaker 2:Welcome back to Walk With Me at Cyber Warrior Studios Production. I'm your host on this journey, the Cyber Warrior. Now, today I want to cover two topics, and they kind of go hand in hand. The first one I want to talk about is actually based off of a quote by Marcus Aurelius from Meditations waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one Now.
Speaker 2:See, that's very important to me, because anybody who follows me, anybody who has listened to this podcast for a while, anybody who has watched any of my other content, they know that I don't really do a whole lot of arguing. Much of what I do is to promote men's mental health, mental health in general, career success, helping others that's what I do, and it's because, to me, that is that's what it is for me. To be a good man is to help my community, help my family. Right being able to provide, making sure that my wife, my kids, anybody else that you know, if it's within my power, is taken care of. That's what it means to me. So I know what it means to be a good man in my eyes. I'm not going to sit there and argue with other people about, oh, you should do this or you should do that. I will give my advice on my shows and within my content, but I will not argue with you because there's no point why argue? Some people have their vision of what it means to be a good man. Some have their vision. It doesn't matter To me. I'm going to live by the example I want to set for my sons.
Speaker 2:In this world, so much arguing is done online, so many people think they know what's best for other people and they're willing to argue about it. I am willing to give advice based off of my life experiences, based off of how I am doing mentally, how I have done mentally the ups, the downs, the roller coasters and everything. I'm willing to do all these things because I know what has worked for me. But, as a lot of people will tell you, what works for one person isn't necessarily going to work for another. So that is why I leave a lot of my advice generic to where it can work for just about anybody.
Speaker 2:But in particular with this topic, with this quote what it means to be a good man and people arguing about it, I see it a lot, whether it's on TikTok or Facebook or Twitter or Instagram or you name it. I see comments all the time about what it is to be a man, what's toxic about masculinity, what's this, that and a third, and I'm not going to argue with it. A lot of these people already have their minds made up. They're not going to listen to other opinions. So I'm going to live my life doing what I feel is best for me promote good mental health, promote a good life for my kids and my wife and my brothers and my sisters and my warriors and everybody else, and help out everywhere I can. I am going to protect the ones I love, because to me, that's what it is to be a man. To me, it's protecting those we hold dear, protecting our friends and our family, standing up and being a member of the community and being willing to protect your community. That's what it means to me.
Speaker 2:So when you see people arguing and you decide to engage in those arguments, when you decide to go back and forth with someone and you're both being stubborn, two things are happening there. A, your mental health is going to take a hit because there's going to be a lot of negativity and a lot of vitriol that is going to be spewed your way. It happens when nobody else has facts anymore. They go back to just name call like we're children. To me, that's not what it is to be a good man when you start calling names and just being mean, just to be mean because you have no leg to stand on. It's not good in my eyes. When somebody is attacking you, you have two options there you can state your peace and leave, or you can ignore it all together. That choice is yours. Personally, if it comes down to what I'll make, I'll state my peace. I'll state my mind and how I feel about things if it was ever necessary, and then I'm not not gonna argue, because that is not protecting me and mine. Online, nobody's going to hurt me. It's like nobody can hurt you. And when I think about things like that, when I think what it takes to be a good man, there's one peace and this is what's gonna lead into the next topic because there is one peace that's missing and that's vulnerability.
Speaker 2:Now, this goes for everybody, but ideally for the topic of this show, for men and what it means to be a good man, vulnerability is very important. One of the things that we struggle with as men is to hide our emotions, to never show vulnerability, never show weakness. You have to be strong, you have to carry on, you have to do all these things, and I get it. But there is always a time and place for vulnerability, whether that's with your guy friends, who you know we're gonna cheer you up by making fun of you, but you're still going to understand and everybody understands where you're coming from or if you trust your spouse enough to be vulnerable with her or with him. You see, that's what's important, that ability to be vulnerable. Because when you can't be vulnerable, when you're holding everything in all the time, when you think you're just being strong and you're being tough, no, no, no, no you're being weak. And again, this is just my opinion on the matter. I am no expert by any means. I just know what I have seen and what I have lived through.
Speaker 2:Not showing vulnerability will lead you down a dark road, because when you feel like you have no one you can open up to, when you don't actually open up, when those things eat at you, that is when man or woman a lot more issues arise, that's when you have breakdowns, that's when your anger flares up, that's when you get filled with rage, that is when you become depressed, that is when you become anxious. That is when you become have panic attacks, and it is all because you refuse to ever be vulnerable. And there's nothing wrong with being vulnerable in the right circumstances. Now, why is this important to being a good man? Is because, as a good man, you have to be able to provide and protect for your family and your community. But if, mentally you were not there, mentally you have been ground down so much that you no longer have the will or the capability to provide and protect because you have never taken it upon yourself to be vulnerable or felt like you cannot be vulnerable, then now we have bigger issues.
Speaker 2:Now is when things really escalate and it becomes harder to do much of anything. So understand this being a man, being vulnerable, being able to show emotion, being able to do these things all go hand in hand. But all things have a time and a place and specific people that you should be able to express yourself to. It is not weakness to be vulnerable. It is not weakness to hold your stance on what it is to be a good man for you. What does show weakness is being ignorant, lacking knowledge, purposefully being mean, purposefully those things, those things are uncalled for. Those things don't make you a good man. Those things don't show vulnerability. That is you trying to break somebody else because you are too ignorant, you have not done the research to be able to argue your point and so you deflect, so you become rude, so you go to name calling and become a child.
Speaker 2:Now I get it. Walk with me is normally for everybody and I got to be honest, a lot of this can work for anybody. However, the stigma around men's mental health, the issues that the men I have talked to have come forward with, including going back a few episodes when I had a round table of men on for men's mental health awareness month these are things I don't want to quit talking about. These are issues I don't want to stop talking about. So, man or woman, my advice will be there for you to understand and for you to hopefully grow from. Hopefully it helps you maybe your husband, maybe a brother, anybody but understand that men's mental health is an issue that is not gonna go away because in a lot of men's eyes, they are not allowed to open up because, it is weak because it shows that they are incapable of protecting and providing At least, that's what the stigma says.
Speaker 2:So I want you to understand all this and I want you to know that, no matter what happens, the men in your life will protect and provide for you the real men, the good men, because that is what we do. No, otherwise. This has been Walk With Me, a cyber warrior studio's production. As always, I'm your host, the Cyber Warrior, and if you take a look down below in the description on YouTube, check out the show notes, you can find all the ways to support this show and support this channel to allow me to continue making content for you. You can rate this on Good Pods or any podcast out there. You can like and subscribe if you're on YouTube, but I want you to take these words to heart Truly do Help people out, be good to each other and, ultimately, the more we love each other, the more we show kindness, the more we quit making people think that they're not a lot of be vulnerable, the better off we'll be. I love you all. You're all my warriors, you're all my family, and I'll see you next time acht.
