Walk With Me - An Audio Guide for Self-Improvement
Walk With Me - An Audio Guide for Self-Improvement
Harnessing Change: The Power of Perspective Shift
When you're knocked off your feet by life's challenges, do you wallow in despair or do you rise, dust yourself off, and try to find the lesson in it all? As your host, the Cyber Warrior, I'll share my personal journey from being medically retired from the military to evolving into a beacon of resilience and strength. This episode unravels how a simple shift in perspective, replacing 'why is this happening to me?' with 'what is this trying to teach me?' can be a game-changer in your life. We'll explore the power of embracing change and stepping outside our comfort zones, turning negatives into opportunities for self-improvement.
Life isn't about making things easier, it's about becoming stronger. And strength often stems from the lessons we learn from our decisions and experiences. This episode isn't just about sharing my story, it's about inspiring you to take control of your life, to express your emotions appropriately, and to make positive changes. Accept that change is inevitable and harness it as a source of strength. Remember, it's not about how hard you hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. So, join us in this transformative journey - check out the links in the description for more!
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Speaker 2:Welcome back to Walk With Me. I'm your host on this journey, the Cyber Warrior. Now I want to apologize for not bringing out an episode last week, first and foremost, mainly because I know there's a lot of people that are trying to get things from this show and they feel that it has a lot to offer Maybe not many, but enough that it's important that I try to continuously put out content on a consistent basis, especially my shows, because I know how important it is to some people. It's important to me too. Unfortunately, last week, there were a lot of moving pieces, a lot of things going on, and I just didn't get to bring out an episode. For that I apologize. I hope you did get to check out the last two episodes that I did, though, on men's mental health awareness. I thought it was a very important topic. If you follow me on my social media, I continue to talk about it at the same time, that'd be TikTok, or even here on YouTube, instagram. I still continue to talk about men's mental health because I think it's something that we don't talk about enough.
Speaker 2:Getting into this, I want to really break down three different topics, and they really go hand in hand. It's mindset shift, strength and change. The reason these are so important is because of how I've been doing things recently in my own life. Mindset shift and this came into play for me. I saw a quote for it today. However, I didn't realize I was doing it. To be completely honest, I talk about it a lot without realizing I'm talking about a quote just like this. The quote goes when you replace why is this happening to me? With what is this trying to teach me, everything shifts. It's very important that we think about that and we think about those words.
Speaker 2:In today's day and age, there's a lot of victim mentality of oh, it's my fault, or everything's happened to me, or it's snowballs. When you get that negativity in your head, it just keeps compounding one after another after another. Part of it is for me, I believe it's what you put out into the world, or what you believe, or just the energy you surround yourself with, is truly what's going to happen. If you believe all these negative thoughts, if you're constantly thinking negatively, then that is what is going to come back to you. A way around that is to shift your mindset, meaning what you do is instead of why is this happening to me? What is this supposed to teach me.
Speaker 2:Everything we do in life is a lesson. There is a lesson to be learned from everything. That may not mean a lot to some people, but the way I look at it is like this Whether that's in my career, in my personal life, in relationships with my friends, with my family, with my kids, it doesn't matter. My goal is to learn from everyone any time I can, and I learn from my own actions. If I make a mistake or if I make a decision and that decision is the wrong one, I may not have known it at the time, I may not have done enough evaluation of the pros and cons or the consequences of that action. When I do that now, I can learn from those mistakes. I can learn from those decisions. Maybe it was a good decision, maybe it was the right decision, but something along the way went wrong. Or maybe the end goal wasn't what I thought it was going to be, maybe I thought it was just going to turn out differently.
Speaker 2:Well, we learn from that, and we learn from all of those decisions and all of those choices we make in life. And so, you know, thinking about that it also gets me thinking about, you know, change in general and Strength in our comfort zones, because we have come to a point with social media, with society, where a lot of us are complacent. So we want to get a job and then we just want to be able to pay bills, and as long as we could do that, we're happy and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm happy with being able to have my bills paid. That it does. It makes me happy. Now I always want more To be able to do more for my family, but but I'm happy with that. But what I'm not happy with is my own mental health I'm not happy with as my own mindset, and so part of that shifting mindset, part of that making things better, is also Establishing that I need to get out of my comfort zone and I need to change. And let me explain.
Speaker 2:So I was in the military for 13 years Before they medically retired me because of my back, my neck and a bunch of other issues. I've said this before and With that, by about the time I was a few years in To the end of my contract, so so about the time they're gonna start med boarding me, I got on a permanent profile. Wasn't a lot of doing anything. I wasn't really allowed to do much PT Because the fact that I had these injuries that included, you know, bulging discs, degenerating discs, arthritis degeneration, just everything and so what I took from that is oh, now is my chance to be lazy, right? I retired from the army Over five years ago, so in 2017, I retired from the army.
Speaker 2:Prior to that, I hadn't been to a gym in a few years because, well, I didn't have to because I was broken, so why go to a gym? So I got really lazy, but really complacent, and as things have progressed over the years and things have gotten worse, it has done more and more damage to my mental health, because now it's hard to play with my kids, it's hard to do a whole lot on a regular basis, so if I go outside and I want to do yard work, I can't really do it unless I plan on being on the couch for a few days, and so it makes things worse because then my wife has to pick up the slack where now I am not mobile. So I decided to get out of my comfort zone. Last week one of the changes that I made and I finally started going to a gym again first time in probably over eight years, decided to go to a gym huge step for me. During that week I made another change. Now a lot of these may not seem like much to people that listen to this, but if you know me, you know it's a lot.
Speaker 2:So the next change I made was I cut a lot of the energy drinks out of my diet. It became something that I only drink in the morning and then, once they're gone they're gone I'll buy them at the store in the morning, either on my way to or on my way back from the gym, and then, once they're gone, they're gone I drink water the rest of the day. And then this week I made another change. Now I used to drink a lot. I would drink every night. I've probably been doing this for about five years now.
Speaker 2:It's not good now not to say I was getting drunk every night, not to say that I was allowing it to control me, but Drinking anywhere from five to six beers every night, sometimes more, there's a huge detriment to your health, and so, in a way, my way to get regain control over my mental health, over my mindset, was to cut that out. Also, that's not to say I'm not gonna drink. I still have security, happy hour, and I I do enjoy a beer now on then. So that's what the weekends are gonna be for, and it's not to overdo it, it's just to have a few and then enjoy the night. But I say all this because it's out of my comfort zone, but it's something I know I need to do for my physical and mental health, and and so I want people, when they think about how they live their lives, they decide whether or not the choices they make are Helping them in life, and whether that's helping them physically, helping them mentally, helping them spiritually, or if it's a detriment.
Speaker 2:Because if what we are doing is a detriment to ourselves, then why are we doing it? And I get it. I'm the first one to say if I'm going to die, I'm a die happy and I'm gonna do what I want, I'm gonna live my life. But let's be honest if I can't move, how can I be happy? If I can't play with my kids, am I really happy? And so we like to think that, oh yeah, this is making me happy, but maybe it's just a vice that we're using to get through the fact that we're unhappy. And if that's the case, then we need to change the why we are not happy right now. We need to do better and I've been thinking about that a lot because of what I deal with on a daily basis.
Speaker 2:Because if I'm gonna go to the gym and I'm gonna work out, I know I'm gonna be sore, especially just getting back into it. If I'm going to give up caffeine, I know for a while I might get headaches or migraines and I'm gonna be tired, but after a while it loses that effect. If I'm gonna give up drinking all every day and just save it for weekends when I don't have to work and things like that, well then it's gonna be a change and it's gonna be hard Now not to say I was addicted to alcohol or anything like that, but there's always a chance I could slip into that just because of my genetics and because of where I come from. So I analyze all these things and I realize I have to do better by myself for myself and for my wife and for my kids and for the people that I try to help. It is very hard to sit there and motivate others to sit there and help, try to influence others to better their mental health, better their physical health and better their spiritual health if I am doing something that is negative to my own. So that's where the mind shift comes in, that's where the change comes in, that's where getting out of your comfort zone all plays a factor, and when we think about changing our mindset.
Speaker 2:Now I'm taking why is this happening to me? Why is my body breaking down? Why have I put on 20 pounds? Why am I missing games? Why am I so tired? Why this, why that? And turning into? What can I learn from this experience? What can I learn from these decisions? What can I learn from the choices that I have made? I've learned, I've learned that I have to do better for myself physically, to then improve myself mentally, which then allows myself to go and take an introspective look and do better spiritually, because that's what it's all about, is how I look at my wellbeing, because I can't help others if I can't help myself. If I'm depressed, if I'm anxious, if I'm having panic attacks, if I'm doing anything like that, I can't help my family. So now I'm taking everything that happens and I've decided that, even though I knew what I was doing wrong and didn't want to change it, and still blame the situation on outside sources and outside reasons of oh, it was the army, it's this, it's that. It's the third.
Speaker 2:Now I have decided to take back control, because that's really what we need to do in our lives is take back control. We control our lives, we control our outcomes, we control our emotions. We control all these things. When you give up that control, you become a victim, you end up in a comfort zone, you refuse change and you become weak. But once you regain that control, once you learn to positively express your emotions I don't mean positive emotions, I just mean in the right way express your negative emotions In the right way make changes to your life that will allow you to dig yourself out of that negative hole and realize you can learn from all of your decisions in life. You can learn from all of life's experiences. You can learn from everybody.
Speaker 2:I want you to get out of your comfort zone, because it is when we get out of our comfort zone that we truly find success. It is when we truly learn and grow. You can't grow while you're comfortable. I mean you can grow sideways, but not up, and the goal in life is to constantly level up. The goal in life is to constantly be doing better and be happy about who you are and what you're doing with your life. So live life. Live life to the fullest.
Speaker 2:But just make sure that when you're doing that and in the process of doing that, you are accepting the fact that at times you are going to have to change and, as the acknowledgement of that is the acknowledgement of what you're doing and who you are and what you're about, that provides that strength. Because you're not going to get strength from sitting idle. You're just like anything in life. You're not going to get strength from being immobile, from not expressing yourself, from not having emotion, from not any of this. No, no, no. We get strength from everything we do, from the motion, from being mobile, from thinking, from evaluating, from learning, from everything, from understanding that change is inevitable and you have to accept that change. You have to be willing to accept it, you have to be willing to be better, you have to be willing to do better, and that will help you both mentally and physically and spiritually. So three, not both, that'll help you in three ways.
Speaker 2:But I felt that this episode I really wanted to stress that because it is very important to our success in life and it is very important to how we feel about ourselves and how we treat our families. So with that, I hope you get something from this, and I have another bit of wisdom for you, and it's another quote. What can I say? I love quotes you all know that, and normally sometimes I'll read from a book or something like that. But what I wanted to take today to say is we expect things to get easier and that's just not the case. The reality of it is, life is never going to get easier. You just get stronger. As you conquer obstacles, as you get out of your comfort zone, as you challenge yourself, as you change, you will get stronger. You will get stronger physically, you will get stronger mentally and you will get stronger spiritually because at all facets of it, you should be taking a look at yourself, at what means something to you. You should be looking at all facets of life and it'll happen for you. So understand all that.
Speaker 2:And if you wanna support this show, please go ahead. Check down in the description or the show notes or whatever you're listening on or watching this on. Everything's down there, from my website to merchandise, to PayPal, to Cash App. It's all down below. Please go ahead. Feel free to support the show Also now on YouTube. I can't take tips down below, and if you're on any of my lives on Friday, I do accept that the super chats have been turned on as well, so that's just another way you can support, if you so choose. Otherwise, I'm doing this for you and I love you all. So this has been another amazing episode of Walk With Me, a Cyber Warrior Studios production, and as always, I'm your host, the Cyber Warrior. I'll see you all soon.
